How To Let Go Of Negativity On Social Media and The Blogosphere

It more difficult to stay positive on social media and the blogosphere these days when you are bombarded by negative feelings and ideas on a daily basis. I have recently seen many posts about how blogging is changing (for the worse), the Instagram algorithm sucks and bloggers are liars. Basically, the rhetoric is that blogging is all round more difficult. I have also witnessed a couple of twitter fights among people and Snapchat stories where someone is calling another person names and asking for a fight. It is all very exhausting to witness.

Regarding the blogging situation, I personally believe that blogging and it’s platforms must eventually evolve and change. There may be a few growing pains while that happens, but there is always room to thrive in any environment!

I’m a generally positive person so I always try to avoid negativity at all costs now. Be it negative thoughts like anger and envy or just negative people and posts in general. It is not always easy, but here are some of the tactics I had to adopt to let go of that negativity!

Out of sight, out of mind.

Everyone knows the best way to get over something is to cut all contact. I think the same can be applied in dealing with negativity and negative emotions. Everything I ingest on social media is done in a conscious manner now because I know how slippery that slope is. One minute you’re admiring the beautiful vacation someone took and the next minute you’re wallowing in self-pity about how shitty your own life is.

Everyone is living different lives and it is very clear that social media is not what it seems. Most people show you the best versions of themselves. When they are laughing and looking their best in beautiful places. They don’t show you their tears, fears or struggles. Everyone has bad days. The person who’s life you think is perfect may be dealing with worse problems than you. For this reason, it’s very important to not compare your life at face value to other people on social media.

I also periodically assess how the people I follow make me feel. Do I feel inspired following this person or does it bring up negative feelings on my part? If I feel negative feelings, I unfollow that person immediately. It doesn’t matter if they are a stranger I met from the internet or a close friend. Surrounding myself with people who bring positive thoughts and feelings is important for my mental health and well-being! I believe our mental health is something we should not take lightly.

Ignore, Block, Repeat.

Whenever we are attacked by someone on the internet it’s very easy to think of a witty reply and lash out to the person that hurt you. But when you take a few seconds to assess the situation you realise that the people who are attacking you are probably projecting their insecurities on you. Once you’re aware of this, it is easier to let things go.

I have thankfully not been in any major conflicts on social media for a while now but I realised that they dwindled down once I started ignoring the people that attacked me. Arguing is a massive waste of time to me. It hardly goes anywhere and you can end up saying something very hurtful. I now have the policy of if I get attacked, I will silently block the person. It preserves my dignity and cuts the conflict short.

However, some things are harder to ignore than others and in that case, I’m an advocate for standing up for yourself. But it’s important to pick and choose our battles.

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Put things in perspective.

Putting your life in perspective and really acknowledging the privileges that you have is a good practice to adopt. You may not have a perfect life on paper, but there is almost always something to be thankful for. Focusing on the good things in your life can help you let go of the negativity. Also, having a positive outlook in the midst of negativity is a very important.

I also noticed that a lot of the things I used to get riled up about on the internet are really not that important in the grand scheme of things. Once I realized this, I stopped letting things get to me or offend me and just let it go!

Take a breather

Designating time to focus on you is great. It refreshes you and may make social media seem not so negative anymore. I have at least one day of the week where I don’t open my Instagram or WordPress. This activity became important to me after my Social Media Detox. It allowed me to forget the world of ones and zeros and really be in the moment. Sometimes it’s difficult to leave because there is this irrational a fear of missing out, but I always try to remember that it will be there when I come back!

Final Tip: Follow loads of meme accounts on Instagram, you will not be disappointed. LOL

I hope you enjoyed reading this post! I would love to know what your thoughts are on negativity in general.

How do you feel about negative posts and negativity on social media?

How do you deal with that negativity?

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The Foundation Tip That Changed My Makeup Game

I always dreaded crowded or hot places because once I started sweating my makeup seemed to glide right off my face. My foundation also sat on my face instead of being an extension of my face. I spent hundreds of dollars on foundations and setting powders in the hopes that I would be able to avoid a foundation mishap outside. Setting powders helped for a bit, but it did not give me the flawless look I so desperately wanted to have. It wasn’t until I discovered this makeup tip that my makeup game took a complete 180!

The commonly accepted way of applying makeup is wearing Primer, Foundation/concealer then Powder. But what if I told you I apply my foundation as Primer, Powder then Foundation.

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I know I sound crazy,  I thought it was completely crazy at first. Why would anyone wear powder before foundation? I actually discovered this technique from a video by Wayne Goss on YouTube. Wayne Goss is a makeup artist who gives a lot of unorthodox advice about makeup which actually works. Once I started using this tip my makeup does not budge. I live in Nigeria which is basically summer 24/7 and even in this very hot weather my makeup does not budge. This technique also made my makeup appear more smooth and flawless which is a double plus!

First Step – Prime

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Moisturise your skin and apply a pump or two of primer all over your face. I use GOSH Velvet Touch Foundation Primer.  Primer is a really good makeup product that will allow your foundation look more smooth because it fills in your pores. Instead of having the foundation sit on your face, the primer will give the foundation an even base to work with. If you have dry skin, this step is very important for avoiding a cakey makeup look.

Second Step – Powder

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Using a powder brush, apply a light coat of powder all over your face. The more coverage the powder has, the better because this means you will not need to use a lot of foundation in the next step. The powder fills in the lines in your skin and allows the base for the foundation to be smooth and actually settle as opposed to gliding and sliding everywhere. I’ve been using Mac Studio Finish powder in NC 55.

Third Step – Foundation

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Because you applied powder before which has a bit of coverage, you will notice that you do not need a lot of foundation in this step. I literally only need 2-3 pumps of foundation at most. Which is great because I don’t like using a lot of foundation. I just apply a bit on a foundation brush and rub in circles all over my face till it is evenly applied! I’m using my all time favourite foundation Maybelline Fit Me Matte and Poreless Foundation.

Final Step (Optional) – Powder

If you have oily skin or you just want more coverage, lightly apply powder on your T-zone or all over your face. Do not apply too much powder here to avoid your face looking cakey!

That’s it! I have been following this makeup tip consistently for a couple of months and my makeup game has seriously stepped up a notch. I no longer carry a powder to retouch my makeup throughout the day, I have minimal shine and my face looks more flawless. It was a truly life changing tip!

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I challenge you to try this tip for a few days and see how it fares. Thank me later. Or better yet, thank the makeup guru Wayne Goss!

Have you tried this tip?

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MEGA AWARD POST: Sunshine, Leibster and The Awesome Blogger Award!

I’m literally the worst person ever to be nominated. I have a ton of nominations that are just sitting in my drafts that I never completed. I decided to do this massive award post today because I havent done one in so long. I enjoyed answering all these questions and I hope you enjoy reading it too. Lets get into it!

Sunshine Blogger Award

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RULES

  • Thank blogger(s) who nominated you in a blog post and link back to their blog.
  • Answer the 11 questions that the blogger asked you.
  • Nominate 11 blogs to receive the award and write them 11 new questions.
  • List the rules and display the sunshine blogger award logo in your post and/or on your blog.

Thank you so much for the nomination and questions Nifemi! Check out her blog here.

What is your greatest fear?

Cockroaches. I’m deathly afraid of cockroaches!

What are your blogging achievements so far?

Reaching a 1000 followers on my blog and being contacted by Rimmel London to use one of my pictures on their website!

What keeps you going?

Seeing the support and nice comments I get from everyone that reads my blog motivates me!

Family or Friends?

Family! I love family.

How would you describe your blogging style?

I don’t have a blogging style that I can pin point. I just try to be coherent and let my personality shine through.

Who has impacted you most in blogging and how?

I haven’t been impacted by anyone, but I have definitely been inspired by Lydia Elise Millen. She’s an amazing soul and great blogger!

Have you ever think of quitting blogging?

Not at the moment no! But I worry often about how I will juggle blogging and full-time studies.

How do you calm yourself when angry?

I stay away from everyone and look at memes on my phone till I fall asleep. LOL

Any regrets ever since you started blogging?

No not at all! I’m someone who avoids having regrets. It is a completely pointless emotion because I can’t go back and change the past.

Coffee or Chocolate?

Chocolate!

Will you party or stay indoor?

BOTH. I love a good party but I also love to stay at home and chill most of the time

 

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I was nominated by NotYourAverageGirlyGirl! Thank you so much for the award! Check out her blog here

What is the one movie that you can watch over and over and never get sick of?

Any Leonardo DiCaprio film is an instant classic.

What is your go-to Starbucks (or coffee/tea/beverage) order?

Caramel Frappuccino. I’m very basic. Lol

What is one item that you can’t live without (other than your phone)?

My computer.

What is your favorite book?

I don’t have a fave, but I love Sci-Fi and self-help books.

If you could star in any TV series, which would it be and which character would you play?

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I would be A in Pretty Little Liars or Frank Underwood in House of Cards because they’re messy, evil, petty and the villains/antagonists always have the most fun.

If you could own any animal, and the animal would always remain baby-sized, which would you choose?

A cat! I love kittens and they’re so cute with their baby screechy meows

If you could have one super power for one day only, what would it be?

Time Control. I want to experience how people lived in the past.

What was the first concert that you ever attended?

I went to the Drake “Would You Like A Tour” concert in Birmingham, UK in 2013!

What city do you wish you could live in?

NYC seems like a fun place to live in.

What is your go-to karaoke song?

Any and all Disney songs.

What is the most interesting place you’ve ever visited?

Dubai! It was so different from anywhere I’ve ever visited.

 

Awesome Blogger Award

 

Rules of This Award:

• Thank the person who nominated you & include the reason behind the award.

• Tag it under #awesomebloggeraward in the Reader.

• Answer the questions your nominator gave you.

• Nominate at least 5 awesome bloggers.

• Give your nominees 10 new questions to answer.

• Let your nominees know that they’ve been nominated!

Thank you for the nomination Sanah Sharma! Do check out her blog here 

Questions

What’s the best thing you love about where you live?

I currently live in Nigeria and one of the things I love the most about it is the hot weather! It’s summer all year-long so I never have to worry about padding up when I’m leaving the house.

If not for your current profession, what would your alternate career option be?

I’m probably going to be a research scientist but if I wasn’t doing that I’d probably be working somewhere entertainment and or beauty related.

What language do you want to learn?

French. I’m moving to Quebec soon so it is definitely a skill I would love to have. Speaking English only is so boring to me.

What’s your favorite dessert?

Ice-cream!

If you had to wear just one outfit all your life what would it be?

Probably just a button up shirt and pants. I think it is something that will remain somewhat in fashion forever. I would’ve said pyjamas but I can’t leave my house looking like a crazy person, even though it’s comfortable

What is the one place in the world you want to visit before you die?

Tokyo, Japan!

If you could be a movie character, who would you be and why?

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Not a movie character but an anime character called Gon Freecss in this show called Hunter x Hunter. He has a lot of admirable qualities like loyalty, determination, playfulness that I think is so cute. He also kicks butt and everyone underestimates him but he gets shit done. He is my anime soul mate.

What are three things you never leave home without?

Lip Balm, My iPhone and Money.

What is your favorite brand of clothing?

Zara! I own too many Zara clothes.

What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done?

I think indoor skydiving and extreme dune bashing in the desert!

 

Leibster Award

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I was nominated by Louise to do the Leibster award! Thank you very much for this award Louise!

What inspired you to begin your blog? What was your reason and what is your blog about?

I liked the idea of blogging about the things I loved so I decided to start a blog about my travel experiences…which morphed into the blog you see today. I’m very glad I started blogging!

What qualities do you like about yourself?

I’m a generally chill person who is slow to react and I like that about myself.

Are you more a city or country person?

City. I can’t stand the quiet of nature. LOL

Do you have children? If not, would you like to have children in the future & what would you name them?

I don’t! I would like to have kids eventually and I haven’t thought of names yet.

Do you wear makeup? If so what is one thing that’s essential in your makeup routine? 

Eyebrows! My makeup is not complete without it.

If you could spend a whole day with 3 celebrities who would you spend the day with?

I love extravagant celebrities so I’m going to go big with this one and say Floyd Mayweather,  Migos and Rihanna. I think I’ll probably have the most fun with these three/five.

What’s your ideal holiday? Where would you love to travel?

Answered above!

Have you got any phobias? If so what?

I’m afraid of cockroaches. Eek!

Whats an interesting fact about you that not many people know?

I’ve never given this much of a thought to be honest. Lool

What’s the craziest and most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?

Answered something similar above!

Would you say you’re an optimist, pessimist or realist?

Optimist. I always believe everything will work out for good in the end.

My Questions 

Answer both these questions for the Awesome Blogger Award!

  1. Summer or Winter?
  2. Favorite vacation destination?
  3. One item you can’t live without?
  4. What did you want to be when you were younger?
  5. Do you like seafood?
  6. Could you go ever go vegan?
  7. Best TV show you’re watching right now?
  8. Favorite makeup product that you can’t live without?
  9. Love or Money?
  10. Would you ever go on a TV show?

I nominate you for the Awesome Blogger Award

Brooke Clark

Holilife

Dii Blogs

Chxrlotte Rose

The Unabridged Sass

Asakemi 

If you made it this far, you’re a real gem! Thank you so much for reading this award post and I hope you enjoyed it as much as I loved doing it. 

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My Not So Secret Beauty Cleanser For Flawless Skin

I am one of those odd unicorns that has skin that can be classified as  “Normal”. It is neither Dry nor Oily and it’s definitely not Combination. I can humbly say that I have been blessed by the skin gods when it comes to that aspect. But although I had it easier in this area, I was plagued by hyper pigmentation and millions of tiny zits on my forehead. They were even more pronounced when I wear foundation!

I tried so many different skin care products and spent hundreds of dollars on cleansers, toners and masks in the hopes that it would remove some of the acne I was experiencing. As I bought many different products, I began to realise that my skin responded better to products that other people considered harsh. Toners that would normally dry out peoples skin were absolutely perfect for me. Cleansers that were too strong were not even strong at all on my face. I came to the realisation that my skin needed a strong but natural product to help tame the horrendous acne I was experiencing. This lead to my discovery of a Black African soap called Dudu Osun!

Dudu Osun has been here for as long as I can remember. In secondary school, I saw girls use this soap religiously and I wondered why anyone in their right mind would use a soap that is black. Fast forward to my Uni days in Manchester, after spending a lot of money on a cleanser that that didn’t work, I decided to find an affordable alternative which led me to the back of an African Caribbean store where I discovered Dudu Osun!

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I initially did not use it on my face, but once my cleanser ran out, in a moment of desperation I used this soap. I loved it so much that I stopped using that cleanser and started using Dudu Osun. I haven’t looked back since.

Dudu Osun is made up of all natural ingredients including shea butter, honey, aloe vera, osun (Camwood), palm kernel oil, cocoa pod ash, palm bunch ash, lime juice and lemon juice. With so many lovely natural ingredients included I am not surprised it is doing wonders on my skin.

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Something that I have noticed is that Dudu Osun is a strong soap. Do not get it in your eyes. I have made that mistake a couple of times and it was not fun getting it out. It is very harsh. It’s probably the reason why it works on my skin. lol

Dudu Osun is also a pimple zapper. Once I spot a pimple and I use it, the next day it is visibly smaller. It is also a preventative measure for future acne because it has antibacterial properties. I now have virtually no acne spots on my skin and I also have minimal acne scaring! I’m assuming this is because of the lemon and lime which have natural bleaching properties.

Dudu Osun is also extremely affordable in Nigeria and abroad. In the UK, a pack of 6 costs £6. Which is £1 per soap! I am now a big believer of not spending stupendous amount of money on beauty products when you can find one just as good (or even better) in a drugstore or market.

Most skin care products are down to trial and error so even though I may be raving about this product, it may not work for you. However, since it is affordable and most people that have tried it like it, it is definitely worth a buy!

You can find Dudu Osun at most African Caribbean stores or African markets. If you’d rather not go there you can order it directly on Amazon.

I hope you enjoyed this post! This soap is really my secret weapon for flawless skin. I really don’t worry about acne anymore and it is an amazing thing to check off your list!

Thank you for reading! Have you tried Dudu Osun? What did you think of it? 

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500 Followers Milestone + Questions!

So I have 500 blog followers now! It is such an amazing blogging milestone to reach. Thank you so much for following this little corner on the internet! I truly think this is the fastest growth I have ever experienced on any social media platform. WordPress.com is great and I’m really enjoying the community here. Thank you all so much!

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It’s getting pretty hard to know everyone that follows me but I will try as much as possible to keep engaging with everyone that follows me. I see so many different followers on my page. Where are you from? Comment below!

For those stumbling on my blog for the first time, Hi! My name is Pearl and I’m a 20 year old from Nigeria. I have a Bachelors degree in Biomedical Science and I am starting my Masters in Biotechnology at McGill University this fall! Although I am a big lover of biology, I have many other passions like music, movies, beauty, reading and travelling. I mostly blog about beauty, travelling and lifestyle on my blog.  Take a look around!

Blog Updates
I recently added an RSS feed subscription for people not on WordPress (side bar) so you can keep up with my blog.

I also started a Pinterest and Facebook  page for The Pearly Life. Please like and follow me there if you so choose!

Finally, follow me on my Instagram! I will be sure to follow back if you drop a quick “Hey from the blog!” on one of my pictures. Thank you 🖤🖤

Handling Rejections and The Power of Positive Thinking

When I was applying for my undergraduate degree in Biomedical Science, I was rejected by 4 out of the 5 schools I applied to. To make matters worse, I got rejected by these schools one by one until it was only that one school left. It was one of the most demoralising times of my life. I was extremely anxious and uncertain of my future and what would happen if I couldn’t go to school that year.

However, I wouldn’t change a thing that happened. Although I got accepted by only one school, it turned out to be the perfect university for me. Studying in Salford University made me fall in love with Biomedical Science. It allowed me to excel and I graduated with a First Class Honours Degree! (For some context for my non-British readers, my grades were evaluated to be equivalent to a 3.83/4 GPA by WES)

My university experience is just a type of rejection that you could experience. There are so many different things that people go through that are way worse than silly university applications. They are not defined by their circumstances and their rejections. They never let it get to them. They are extremely inspiring to me!

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Rejection

Getting rejected sucks. And it especially sucks when you poured your heart and soul into something and no one appreciates, no one wants it, people laugh and completely ignore it. You feel inadequate, like something is wrong with you and you try to analyze everything you did and what you could have done differently. These were thoughts that crossed my mind on a number of occasions. But during these last few years I have reformed my way of thinking and I have began to adopt a positive mindset. Adopting a positive mindset has allowed me to enjoy life more. I appreciate the simpler things and I understand that it’s okay to try again!

Getting Positive

Call me crazy but I truly, truly believe positive thoughts attract positive things. What you think can really affect the outcomes of situations in your life.  It’s like the law of the freaking universe.

I often draw inspiration from extraordinary people whenever I approach challenging situations in life. As future scientist, I am inspired by scientists that succeeded above all odds. One peculiar example is Thomas Edison: a great inventor and businessman. Most people know him as the man who invented the lightbulb. When he was younger, Thomas Edison’s teachers said that he was “too stupid to learn anything”. He was fired from a number of jobs he had because he was “unproductive”. He also had 1000 unsuccessful attempts at inventing the lightbulb. One thousand, painstaking, detailed attempts! Thomas Edison was rejected and experienced thousands of failures before his successes. His drive and ambition was extraordinary!

Rejections and failures are a normal part of life but you  only need one yes or success for things to turn around. In times of rejection, I believe having a positive mindset is crucial because it allows you to handle negative situations properly. Don’t give up!

Have Faith

In Christianity, faith is the pillar of it’s belief. We hope for things that we do not see and things we can never understand.  In hard times, we are encouraged to have faith and hope that things will work out for the greater good. In fact, faith is so powerful in Christianity that a parable says that even if you have faith as small as mustard seed, you can move a mountain! Even if you are not a religious person, having faith allows you to keep your head up high and not be overwhelmed by your problems.

Hope

I always say to myself if rejections happen that it’s not the end of the world. It may feel like it but just keep hoping. Never stop hoping for positive things. Affirm that you will receive them and work really hard for it. Don’t worry if it doesn’t work out the first time. Try again, try harder and in different variations. Above all, hope for the best. Believe that the universe is working for your good and not against you. Hope that everything will work out for the greater good!

How do you handle rejections?

Thank you for reading!

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Dubai: At The Top, Burj Khalifa

I have a love for visiting the worlds largest things so it was impossible for me to visit Dubai without seeing the worlds tallest building, Burj Khalifa. Standing tall at a whopping 828m with over 160 floors, it is a truly unique building. When you drive around Dubai, Burj Khalifa is one of the first buildings you recognise because it is so tall and it towers over everything. No matter where I was, I could always spot this building, be it at the hotel, the market or the mall.

I read that it is better to book viewing tickets online than buy upfront because it is cheaper and quicker to move through the line. I ordered my tickets from atthetop.ae for the 5:30 viewing. However, the best time to visit Burj Khalifa is around 6:30 pm because that is when the sun is setting and the view is amazing then. Because of this, 6:30pm slots where fully booked for 2 days! so try to think about that before you book in advance.

Getting up to the top was surprisingly very quick, Burj Khalifa has the third fastest elevator in the world. The floors where moving like seconds and you couldn’t notice that you were so high up in air. We quickly got up to the observation deck and the view was amazing! There was also a little area after where I got to see the history of Burj Khalifa’s making and the people behind it. It was awesome.

Unfortunately I couldn’t get a picture of the building from the outside because you go through Dubai Mall to enter the building but here are some of the pictures I took!

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Thank you for viewing and I’ll see you soon! xx

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